People are creatures of habit. Some habits, such as a habit of saving, serve us well. Others, like broken records, churn out the same tunes with annoying repetition.
Some interpersonal conflicts resemble broken records. Although we see the futility of engaging in them, we seem powerless to resist the urge to be drawn into them. It is to a couple caught in this type of cyclical conflict that I wrote the following letter to encourage and point a way ahead for them.
1 Names have been changed to protect the couple’s identity
2 A term used to denote a concerted attempt to restart or reboot the relationship.
Benny Bong has been a family and marital therapist for more than 30 years, and is a certified work-life consultant. He was the first recipient of the AWARE Hero Award, received in 2011, and is a member of Kampong Kapor Methodist Church.
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